Yes, i'm very pleasantly surprised that so many people rushed in to help me, and they all gave me some nice tips! I think the best solution was to expand toddlers lifespan and just let the parents take care of their little one and shrug off to work for a while, because even though my inner perfectionist is screaming, it will be very enjoyable to see toddlers just being toddlers and bonding with their parents. :lovestruc

I'd like to have a little challenge like that, i just don't have Seasons it would be very fun, i just need to get rid of social worker somehow

And those mods really helps me, especially the ones for toddlers! And i don't think i'm gonna have any routines, because it kinda takes out the fun in raising toddlers, if there is any fun in it to begin with! But great tips, maybe the baby/toddler time won't be just a nightmare i have to go through to see them grow up into beautiful adults :D

See my siggy, 'why I love toddlers' click that then you will see all the things myself and others love about toddlers. Many of these things you probably have not yet seen.

I'm wondering if I have cheats somewhere in my game that make toddlers easier, because I hardly have to pay attention to them at all. XD I suspect that it might be because I like pets. The cat bed makes a lovely cosy toddler bed too and I can turn a blind eye to eating cat food too when I don't want to have to feed the toddler right now. XD The only problem can be a hungry cat 'cause the toddler ate all her food. I'm starting to think that it's a good thing that I don't have children in RL lol.

The OP only has the first two EPs which makes a big difference. A lot of the things people use to make the process go smoothly, like pet beds, stocking up on leftovers, pet food, the FreeTime perks etc. aren't available to them.

Dare I say UC?

Won't help if the system's not strong enough, or OP is the sort of person who needs to add in EPs one at a time and master the game in increments. But if Andrew Gloria can deal with Newson clones with only Double Deluxe and OFB, someone with only the first two EPs can deal with normal families.

Andrew's little Sims literally have months to learn their toddler skills though. It's totally possible to teach all the skills in the default four day window, while keeping the parents' careers on track but it'll be a challenge.

Look, it is difficult at first to raise kids, especially twins - I remember having a hard time in my beginning days as well. And, of course, one of my first CAS families were a lot worse than the Ottomas, who only came around later. One has to remember, though, that the game was also meant to be challenging - it is very clear in the vanilla game. A player has to deal with those challenges - and, personally, I have tried a number of mods over the past five or six years, and most have been booted fairly quickly because everything is just too damn easy. (I know there are mods to make life harder for Sims as well, but, trust me, my sims have lives that are hard enough for me).
The main thing is not to go into a panic because one cannot get every Sim to do everything at once. Pause button For me, personally, the needs and wants of the parents take priority, simply because they are better at parenting when they are happier. (That is why I have them bathe and play with the toddlers when they are rested. It will take longer for the kid to become dirty again anyway).

Even vanilla isn't that hard if you use everything the game has to offer in the way of tricks. I can train a toddler in one day, two tops. I know every trick and I use them which is why I added some rules so some sims can't use all of them.

Date for parents at home just before the baby ages. They will then be plat. Time spent worrying is wasted time.
Smart milk for the toddler and thinking cap for the parent. This makes training go a lot faster. Which is another reason for that date so they have the points and the good mood to use them.
To potty train click off 'potty train' on the parents queue as soon as they pat the toddler head, they are then free to go sleep, eat, potty train a twin, do whatever.
Autumn also makes skilling faster with that I have trained them through the first night before they have even aged a day.
All need perks ticked for everybody. I am still surprised to see people not ticking all those need perks of more energy, lower fun drain etc.
Use coffee if you don't want those skilling wants on the parents to roll away.

And there is always another way: choose a relaxed parenting style.

Make sure toddlers don't starve, put them to sleep when they are exhausted, play peck-a-boo when bored (good for both child and parents, as they often have a low fun bar in my game), and pretty much let them be the rest of the time.
Working parents usually don't have much more time, and their children don't get potty trained nor taught to talk/walk. I simply assume they'll learn at they own pace, as nature intendend, and in fact all my Sims have learnt to pee in the toilet by the time the become children, nothing to worry about XD
If any of the parents (or grandparents or other relative) stays at home, they may prefer to teach the toddler. That's just fine too, and they may get some extra aspiration points.

The OP didn't sound relaxed though, they wanted help. Actually getting the training out of the way is relaxing once it's done. I then have 6-7 days of nothing to think about with that toddler. It's the best time of life in between toddler training and school. They can play with them, bath them, go places like the park, whatever they want to do. For those toddlers who don't learn to potty train because of my rules, they do have something to worry about, bed wetting. I've yet to see the mod in action, which is why I added the rules.

Yes, Jo, it can be done - but it also takes time to learn all the tricks, and I am for the relaxed parenting style myself. If there are enough Sims in the family, they may take turns to try to teach the toddler these skills - but they would, in my game, rather play with the toddler, take him or her (or, more normal in my game, them) out in the garden where they can chase butterflies or play in the snow. Or all dance at the stereo Also, playing without a longer age mod (I used to, but I don't anymore) means that a player has to choose between what is the best for the player (I mean the toddler, the toddler!!!)

The game setting of 4 days is not relaxed though, toddlerhood is over in a flash and most new players do stress over getting those skills done in time. I highly recommend a longer aging mod or to turn aging off.

Aging off is a great tool in the vanilla game as well - I have used it very often myself (although not quite as intense as Andrew does ).
As for the toddlers - if my game did not produce quite as many twins, perhaps I'd have kept trying to teach them all the skills. And some of them do get taught, if there is time and somebody who wants to teach them - it just does not dictate my way of playing. Because it is easier, and I actually find it more fun.
I do like to see my Sims grow up, though, and progress through life as well - as I said, the toddler one day being an elder and holding his grandkid - priceless

Vanilla isn't hard when you have access to all the tricks. The basic game of juggling needs became progressively easier as each EP was added. I'm a big proponent of having a third caregiver. If you don't have AL, you can still invite a Sim in, make them selectable and let them pick up the slack while the parents rest. Just like in real life, order a pizza for a break sometimes, or let the dishes pile up for a bit.

I choose relaxed parenting style like Amura. I don't use a longer aging mod but ages are tweaked in my game. Toddlerhood lasts 4 four days which is enough for my taste..
Toddlers who get all their skills (but nursery rhyme) are the smart ones with smart parents. Otherwise they at least learn to walk and are maybe potty-trained. I'm fine with it.

Yep, I know. There are many tricks out there and probably they have all been said, I'm sure the OP is considering them and probably will use some of them.
I just thought I should add the change-your-gameplay-style option, which is also good for new players imho. Sometimes you just have to figure out the best way for you to play.
I've always been a micro-manager and after a time I've realized that I enjoy the game more if I'm not pausing constantly (and I let things happen, such as a Sim inviting a lover to her wedding, which was likely to create havoc... I did not do that kind of things before). So I'm glad I once read that other people played differently and that I gave it a chance, because surprisingly I like it better now.

I'm not that kind of person, in Sims 3, i got every EP and SP at once but i haven't done so in Sims 2 yet, first it was because i couldn't find any place to buy them, but that i have, i'm afraid some of my mods won't work if i get other EP's and SP's. I don't think they're worth it as i got crapload of mods and i do not want to sort them out or anything. Also i don't know how laggy my game gets, though i've seen no difference from when i had no mods nor any EP's or SP's. Maybe some day i'll get 'em but not today

I think 4 days can be enough after all, if you use smart milk. I didn't find it helpful at first, it was because nobody had good aspiration level, and i can't blame them! Babies can be annoying... but now that someone gave me that helpful dating tip (sorry can't remember which one was it ) I can just train them instantly after they turn into toddlers! Now it's not very relaxing, but it can be fun, which is something i couldn't believe i could have with babies and toddlers, but what can i say, i've been overwhelmed with amazing tips!

Yeah, that was me, or someone else might have also said. A few mods and toddlers can be fun, I even take mine to the beach, park or to day care.

I added a link to the updated bed wetting mod on the other thread.

I leave my toddlers at 4 days and while some struggle even to get potty trained many of my toddlers go into platinum because they've learned everything by the third day without smart milk. It depends very much on the parent. If they're happy it's much, much easier.

Found it, thanks!!

I believe you can still get them from Ultimate Collection for FREE.